When someone says you’re “too much” it depends on so much but little of it has to do with you. If you spent any time lamenting on their words, the tone, the interpretation, instead of just asking them to explain it would drive you mad. Growing up in predominantly white spaces and learning about human behavior from a Western cultural perspective, can really make one entirely unaware that one person’s “too much” is another person’s “perfect”. Understanding the subtext behind this comment requires unpacking emotional norms, interpersonal dynamics, and the implicit biases that shape perceptions of emotional expression and emotional overreaction.